If you or someone you know is dealing with self-harm, know that you’re absolutely not alone. As dark and confusing as this place can be, there are other routes to take when you’re feeling the urge to take your hurt and confusion out on yourself. In fact, self-harm is usually a sign of someone trying to cope. It’s an indication that there is a buildup of pain deep within that needs to be expressed and worked through. Self-harm is the destructive way we deal with that need. So really the goal is to get on a path of healthier ways to cope, and to be gentle with yourself in the process.
Because you matter.
Your pain matters.
Your hurts matter.
You deserve to be heard.
And this won’t last forever.
Despite what your feelings may be telling you, the pain you’re experiencing may be a chapter in your life, but it will not be all there is to your life.
Don’t let your thoughts confuse a chapter with the whole book.
You have a future on the other side of this.
You can make it through.
Coming from someone who has rumbled out of this place and seen the other side, the best thing you can do for yourself is to start inviting those who love you into your struggle. I know how shameful that can feel, but letting others in is your key out. We’re truly as sick as our secrets and they’ll only continue to manifest in the shadows of our minds. So you may feel complete resistance at first because you’ve gotten comfortable with your secret place. However, once you’ve decided to care about yourself, have told the lies in your head to be quiet and open up to someone who can support you, it will begin to let the light into your life again.