If we left everything to our insecurities, we’d never show up for our lives. Insecurity is truly the condition of never “being enough”. As long as we continue to hang in the balance of not smart enough, not brave enough, not “attractive” enough, and all else we’ve been convinced of, our potential will stay locked up inside of us. We never move. We never show up.
We may just take our potential all the way to the grave.
At the core, it’s an issue of perspective.
You overthink what you’re not and underestimate what you are.
You put an unworthy amount of power over your life into the approval of people.
You rely on other people to accept you and what you’re doing first because you haven’t yet fully accepted yourself or God’s purpose for you.
You’ll continue to see the success of others as a defect in yourself because you never believe you can step out on life like they have.
You may even be a critic of those stepping out and showing up because it deeply makes you uncomfortable. Deep down it highlights your cowardice.
Just the thought of entering an arena where you’ll be seen cowers you back into the sidelines.
Our insecurities will highlight every reason to retract, and the moment we try to take a step out it will fight to regain control through fear and self-doubt. People who deeply fear stepping out themselves will many times claw you back in because it triggers their own insecurities. This is why who you surround yourself with is so vital to your potential.
And let’s be honest, some of us have become far too comfortable with our life of insecurity. We’ve made this mindset our home and have a love-hate relationship with it. Why? Because, while it completely holds us back, it also keeps us in that “safe” place where we’ll never be seen- therefore never risking failure or criticism.
Whether it be writing a book, speaking to a crowd, switching careers, starting up an organization, relocating or even just introducing yourself to some stranger because the good Lord laid it on your heart, please know that we’re either going to be comfortable or courageous; and our one and only life on this Earth will be the outcome of that decision.
Yes, it’s going to take some vulnerability. And yes, there is always a risk in being vulnerable.
Yes, you might fail one or two or a hundred times. Yes, some people around you will never understand or identify with this wholehearted life because they’d never dare to do it themselves.
I’m not talking about being reckless. I’m talking about living a purpose-driven life when you know God has placed a direction in your heart. I’m talking about taking authority over your insecurity and no longer letting it write your story.
Here are a few things we must realize if we’re going to be led by our purpose rather than our insecurities:
If you wait until you and everything around you is perfect, it will never happen.
And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns. – Philippians 1:6
Let’s be perfectly clear on one thing. We are and always will be a work in progress. Until the day Jesus comes, and we are with the Lord, there will always be more to learn, more growing to take place, more wisdom and understanding to gain. There will always be ways you can improve. Waiting until you have come to the perfect place will have you waiting for the rest of your life. Don’t get me wrong; there is a balance to this thing. Many times there is definitely an ideal place that will put you in a better position to launch, but even ideals must be reasonable and allow for some flexibility God-willing. You must self-evaluate if your motive for not moving is because the fear itself exists. Give yourself a goal and work toward the standard you believe you’re being called to but stop letting perfection hold you back.
Someone out there will benefit from what you know.
In the meantime, never think that what you have to offer is insignificant. There will always be someone out there who needs what you have to give. The little you feel you have to offer could make a big shift in the life of someone who has never encountered this themselves. Not only that but as you continue to work with what you do have, you will grow more and more into your calling. How will you ever mature in this if you never step into experiencing it? Exactly. At some point, you must begin to apply yourself, and it’s never too early to start practicing.
Take it one step at a time.
Sometimes we want to be our end result. It can look like an overwhelming amount of process to pursue what God is calling us to. There really is no need to overburden yourself this way. Take it one step at a time, one day at a time and you will make your way. As long as you’re moving forward and investing yourself into your calling, there will be something to show of your progress. Reduce the overwhelming stigma by making it practical. No matter how big or how small, do something day by day that will lead you there.
You will make mistakes, but you will be better because of it.
I don’t think we hold ourselves back because we don’t have what it takes. I believe the biggest reason we are held back is from the fear of predicted failure. We never step out because our “reputation” is on the line and we’re bound by the acceptance of people, so that’s a deadly combination. We’re so quick to equate mistakes with failure, and that keeps us from the fear of ever making one. It subsequently keeps us from ever seeing the fruit that our efforts could bear.
Did you know that Thomas Edison tried more than 10,000 times to invent the light bulb before becoming successful? When he was asked about his failures, Edison stated that he knew “definitively over 9,000 ways that an electric light bulb would not work.” I think that’s hilarious! If only you saw the amount of mistakes the people we admire the most made in the background before grasping how to become proficient in the place they’re in now.
When you learn from your missteps and apply that wisdom to the next step of your life, that makes for a growing success. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes; embrace the challenge to grow from them. Life will move past it, and you’ll be better for it.
Educate yourself on your skill set.
The truth is, the more understanding you have of your skill-set, the more confident you will be in it. No, you won’t know everything; but yes, you can commit to continuous growth and educate yourself. Take a business class. Intern under a solid mentor. Read a book. You get the picture, right?
Overcome the fear of man.
There’s a lot I could say on this subject, but I’ll leave it at this: Your calling is meant for you, not everyone else. Everybody may not get it, and that’s okay. Again, it’s not for them. They weren’t designed for this. You were. God didn’t place it in their heart. He placed it in yours. If we left the plans and purposes of our life in the hands of people, our entire life would be conformed to what people want to see instead of who God made us to be, and that’s just no way to live.
You are not alone. Trust God within you.
I can’t help but think of the story of David and Goliath. That kid talked a mean game.
David replied to the Philistine, “You come to me with sword, spear, and javelin, but I come to you in the name of the Lord of Heaven’s Armies—the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. Today the Lord will conquer you, and I will kill you and cut off your head. And then I will give the dead bodies of your men to the birds and wild animals, and the whole world will know that there is a God in Israel! And everyone assembled here will know that the Lord rescues his people, but not with sword and spear. This is the Lord’s battle, and he will give you to us!” – 1 Samuel 17:45-47
Every time I read this verse, I’m like…
What’s so powerful about the God kind of confidence is knowing without a doubt that God is with you. That’s what empowers us to confidently pursue these callings wholeheartedly and face these giants. We don’t focus on ourselves. We focus on who God is. We rely on His hand. We rely on the indwelling of His Spirit to refine us. He goes before us, and we trust in His plan for our life. We trust that He will redirect us when we get off course and make a way when there is no way. Our confidence doesn’t come from what we’re doing, but what God is doing in us [Tweet this]. And if God is for us, what could ever stop us (Romans 8:31)?
If you get anything from reading this, you must get this.
Your purpose was never about what you can do. It was always about what God is able to do through you. [Tweet this]
So trust that He is working in your life and tell insecurity to bow down.
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