New relationships can be both wondrous and terrifying for the one daring to love again. Vulnerability leaves us wide open. And being wide open can feel…scary. You can close up, never risk, never trust and never experience the miracle of a wholehearted love.
Or you can learn from the past, heal, have faith and decide not to project the past into your future. The latter is way easier said than done, but so worth it.
Here are some thoughts on a couple of reasons we may be experiencing anxiety or insecurity in our relationship. Let me know what you think in the comments below!
The theory of attachment styles really has two underlying dimensions: Anxiety and Avoidance.
And it’s believed that these traits are developed based on the type of care we received from our earliest caregivers (parents) during childhood- a sensitive period. How much of a secure base we had to launch from in discovering ourselves and approaching the world.
These attachment styles are all about how we tend to orient ourselves toward others in our relationships. Sometimes, depending on the circumstances, we can find ourselves sliding down the spectrum of each of these at different points in our lives. However, the goal is to identify which qualities seem most stable over time.